The Prophet’s (SAW) first wife and the first Muslim.

Prophet (PBUH) lost three sons in infancy during his lifetime.

The Prophet (PBUH) had a structure to engage in sexual intimacy with all his wives. He was known to give pleasure related gifts to his wives.

The year that Khadijah (R) passed in 619 CE was also the year the Prophet (S) lost his beloved grandfather. This is known as the year of sorrow where his grief was documented as was his depression.

Prophet (PBUH) receives first revelation while meditating in the cave of Hira 610 CE from the Angel Jibrīl. The Prophet (PBUH) was told repeatedly “iqra,” or “read,” even though he was illiterate. He was shaken to his core, and went to his wife, Khadijah (RA). She modeled how to respond with rahma; she offered comfort, believed him, and took him to her cousin to help.

The Prophet (PBUH) was married to Khadijah (RA) in 595. He had 6 biological children with Khadijah during their 25 year monogamous marriage. Khadijah (RA), a successful business woman, was 40 years old with children from her previous marriage when she married the Prophet (PBUH), who was 25 years old and worked for her. Their marriage set a precedence of empowered decision making around marriage, disrupting cultural norms regarding age, class, and status.

The Prophet’s (PBUH) mother Aminah passed away from illness in 575 CE. Now as an orphan, he was under the care of his paternal grandfather Abdul Muttalib until he also passed in 578. At this point, his uncle took over care for him. All the caretakers treated him as kin and protected him. Through the Prophet’s (PBUH) life, we can see the varied and expansive ways kinship show up, beyond just biology.

The Prophet (PBUH) is born 570 CE. His father passed before his birth so his mother, Aminah, raised him with support of wet nurse Halimah. Aminah, the Prophet’s (PBUH) mother, made the intentional decision to prioritize the health and wellness of her child even if that meant being separated from him for a period of time. She died when the Prophet (S) was 6 years old.

Prophet Yusuf (AS) was gifted with extreme beauty and wisdom. Zulaika, the wife of his employer,  became obsessed with him and tried to sexually assault him. She then falsely accused him of sexual assault. He was incarcerated not for the crime but because Yusuf (AS) prayed to Allah that he would rather be imprisoned than be romantically engaged with Zulaika.

Prophet Lut (AS) was sent to Sodom to bring the people to Islam. They regularly engaged in nonconsensual sexual acts and harassed visitors. Angels disguised as visitors came to the land and were targeted and assaulted. Allah (swt) punished the people of the Sodom by flipping the land.

Has always existed

Yūkābid trusted Allah's command to place her baby, Prophet Musa (AS), in a river to protect him. Musa (AS) was then rescued by Asiyah (RA), the wife of the Pharaoh. Allah reunited Musa (AS) and Yūkābid, as she became his wet nurse.

Devotee of Allah (swt) who miraculously became pregnant with Prophet Isa (AS) without being intimate with a cis man. Despite the stigma she knew she would face from being an unwed mother, she chose to continue with the pregnancy. During her pregnancy, Maryam (AS) expressed suicidal ideations because of the pain of childbirth. She was held and validated through this pain. Maryam (AS) is honored as one of the greatest women by God, particularly in Surah Maryam which is an entire chapter of the Quran dedicated to her story.

A Black woman who was the wife of Prophet Ibrahim (AS) and gave birth to Prophet Ismail (AS). She was left upon divine instruction in a barren valley where she ran from Mount Safa to Mount Marwa looking for help so she could feed Ismail (AS). Her son kicked the earth and it is said that an angel came to create the sprouting well of ZamZam which still flows until today. Allah (swt) sent the miracle fountain of ZamZam to help replenish her milk supply. Because of the well of Zamzam, people settled in the area resulting in the city of Makkah being founded there. Muslims perform their required pilgrimage in Makkah yearly. A nursing parent whose struggle to nourish her child is honored every year at Hajj. To this day, Muslims from around the world, including notable figures like Malcom X, travel to Makkah to perform Hajj and Umrah.

Has always happened and continues through time, especially self managed abortions.

The wife of Prophet Ibrahim (AS) who experienced infertility for many years and grieved the inability to have a child until she conceived Prophet Ishaaq (AS). She also didn’t get pregnant until late into her adulthood; in modern terms, Sarah (RA) had a geriatric pregnancy.

The first woman created and Adam’s (AS) wife. Given the ability to birth and experience the first process of menstruation, pregnancy, and childbirth. Unlike Christianity where the womb is given as a punishment,  Hawa (AS) is given the womb as a mercy. Rahm, the Arabic word for womb, shares the same root as Ar-Rahman (the Most Merciful)  and Ar-Rahmeen (the Most Kind), two names for Allah (swt).